At this point in the school
One of my colleagues, Alex Derry, has a great strategy she uses with her grade six students. When she told me about it, I decided to try it out on my 8’s. She has been kind enough to let me share it here.
She has her kids write down what they are worried about. They then write down their worst feared outcome, followed by their
The final step is to help them come up with a most or at least more likely middle ground end result. I like spectrums, so I get them to draw it out.
Break it down
Worry: ‘I won’t have any friends in high school’
Everyone will have me and will be alone for the rest of my life.
I will make friends again and it might take a bit of time.
I will become the most popular person in school and my life will be perfect.
Having them break down a rationale for each scenario will help them internalize the logic rather than the irrational fear.
People won’t hate me for no reason. Lots of us are in the same situation and are as scared as I am.
I have moved schools before and this is how it worked. I survived and found my place then, and I will again.
Popularity is subjective. Having a smaller group who make me feel supported is what will really help.
I love strategies that force our darker thoughts; our ‘what ifs’ into the light. Once they are out of our heads, they can no longer feed on our emotional vulnerability. Forced into words on a paper, they lose some of their power and are much easier to tame with logic. Thank you Alex.